Author: theempressdiariess

I'll be writing my diary entries about love, life, the gym and lots more entertaining things that happen in the life of the Empress! If you thought Bridget Jones was unlucky, stick with me, I promise I'll keep you laughing at my misfortune!
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17.3.21 – Be gone, extra tummy rolls!!!

On By theempressdiariessIn exercise, keep pushing, not perfect, positivity, weight lossLeave a comment

Dear diary,

It’s no secret that me and my weight have a love-hate relationship.

I love my curvy bits but I’m not a fan of the bits that fold over my jeans and flap under my chin!

So I began training again and taking it seriously last year. It was torture. 900 calories a day. By the time I’d had my lunch, I had 150 calories left and trust me, finding dinner to fill those calories was never fun!

Since good old covid became our new friend, I put on well over a stone! Leggings and oversized jumpers became my new best friend. I got out of the shower one day and saw myself in the mirror and did NOT like what was looking back at me!

So i started changing my lifestyle. I’m eating better by planning ahead and making better choices

I’m working out 1-2 times a day

I’m tryiiiing to drink more water 😬 still got a lot of work to do there

But I’m happy! And I don’t feel like I’m torturing myself!

So far I’ve lost 10lbs – according to my not so accurate scales 👀 I won’t check the scales for a few weeks now as, for me, it’s how I feel, not about the number on the scale.

I’ll keep you updated

Xoxo

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14.3.21 – Happy Mother’s Day Mumma!!!

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Hey Mum!

It’s that special day again where we get to celebrate you and give thanks for all you do!

Thank you for the love, support, guidance, lessons, friendship and so much more!

We have the best fun together but you can also be serious when you need to be – like if there’s a spider or wasp in the house 😬😂

You work so hard and sometimes it breaks my heart to see you so exhausted! But don’t worry, I’m working hard so that you don’t have to anymore.

Mum, you are the epitome of Superwoman! Your love and kindness touches so many around you.

But let’s be honest, everyday is Mother’s Day! You’re one amazing Mum who deserves the world and nothing less!

I love you more than I ever thought I could love a human. Except for Dad…..and Nan 😝😘

Love, Your Mini Me xxxx

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28.2.21 – How Much Of The World Have YOU Seen?

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Dear diary,

I’ve spoken about this before. I LOVE travelling!

When I began dating my babes, he suggested we download an app called BEEN – an app where you can virtually tick off where you have been in the world and see how much of it you have seen.

I have had quite a few holidays in this beautiful lifetime and thought ‘I must have seen about 30% of the world’

WRONG!

I have only seen 5%! 👀😳

5….Percent….

So from that shocking revelation, we have created a wish list.

20 destinations we hope to visit in our lifetime together.

Once things are back to a place where we can travel freely, a big holiday is going to be booked!

But which country will we choose first?

Stay tuned!

Which countries are on your travel wish list?

❤️

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20.2.21 – Well, How Do You Do, 32!

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Dear diary,

Today is my 32nd birthday!

As I blow out the candles of my beautiful tasting birthday cake, I wanted to let you in to my birthday wish!!

I am so blessed to have made it this far in life and I pray I see another 32 plus years more.

This year’s goals I wish to complete are – Lose 2 stone! – Your girl needs to shift some serious covid weight!!!

Volunteer/Help those who need it using my own resources!

– Start a business!

I am so thankful for all the opportunities that have come my way and that are soon to arrive. I am thankful for everything that pushes me out of my comfort zone and enables me to grow – no matter how uncomfortable it is. Thank you for my family, for my love, for my friends, for my jobs, for health, for laughter, for happiness, for everything me and my family have! Appreciation in abundance!

It’s officially my year anniversary on WordPress ❤️ Thank you to all who read and continue to read. More content is coming and most importantly, more consistent content!!! Speak soon!!!

Xoxo

  • My 31st birthday cake 😍
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14.2.21 – Birthday Countdown

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Dear diary,

It’s official! I will be having a lockdown birthday! 😭😩

Call me sad but I had hoped good old Boris was going to set us free so I could at least have a few friends over to celebrate my 21st for the 11th time 👀

If covid wasn’t an issue, I’d be getting dolled up with the girls and getting messy on Café patron shots and double rum and cokes! My outfit would be short and tight and a bit of me and my heels would be sky high! 😭😭 ooh how I miss a night out!

This birthday will be a lot different to the last but funnily enough, I feel a lot more content than I have done.

I’ll be more than happy to be at home with a take away and a bottle of red watching Bridgerton 👀😍

Knowing my family and friends are safe and healthy is all I can ask for right now – that means my presents are sorted!

I will, however, be inhaling the biggest piece of chocolate cake (or in-fact the entire cake) to accompany my new covid chins!

How have you guys celebrated your birthdays indoors?

Let me know if you have any fun things I could do 😘 apart from re watching The Duke Of Hastings 😍

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5.2.21 – HOLIDAY BLUES!

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Dear diary,

I’m sure I am not alone here when I say, I wanna go on holiday!

In the girls group chat (although im not sure why it’s never referred to as a woman’s group chat 🤔) we were reminiscing about the last time we went away –

Holiday shopping, waxing, discussing how much money we would all bring and that all important airport outfit!!!

Ahh…the good old days!

Well it’s looking like we can start to think about booking a holiday again soon and I CANNOT WAAAAAIT!

I’ve been blessed to travel to quite a few countries on this beautiful earth but I found myself doing some research and discovering new places to add to my list.

I definitely want to go to every Caribbean island. I want to see Asia! Don’t forget South America 😍

Where will you go next?

Let me know 😊

Peace xoxo

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3.10.20 – Taking the leap! Finally!

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Dear diary,

Who else has been using this time to find new hobbies or taking the leap to pursue a passion that was already there?

Since the world has been on lockdown I have found myself doing new things and starting new hobbies….but not finishing.

I began with sign language. I got to week 4 and just stopped. I started a counselling course, I stopped after week 2. I began going for morning walks and I got up early 3 times before I decided a lie in was better for me.

That’s typical for me. Always start but never finish.

Now though, I am finally following through with plans I have created and I feel so scared. The feeling of failure is luring in the back of my mind and people whispering and laughing at my failure is lingering over my head. Why? Because I put far too much pressure on myself and because I care about what people think and I shouldn’t!!!

I would rather try then never try. I want to live a life with no regrets and if I do fail, so what? It is a learning experience however, who said I will fail?. Look at Will Smith. After he found fame on the Fresh Prince Of Bel-Air , he became bankrupt and lost everything. He is now one of the highest paid actors in the world. J.K Rowling’s manuscripts were rejected by 12 publishers. Need I say more.

If anyone is scared of pursuing something they really want to do, don’t be! An old friend once told me, “everything you want in life is on the other side of fear”.

I’ll leave that with you 🙂

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6.6.20 – NO JUSTICE! NO PEACE!

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Dear diary,

By now, every one should have seen the devastating video of George Floyd being murdered by members of the police force.

I wasn’t going to write anything about it, not because I am pretending to be blind about the situation but because I am tired! I am sick and tired of having this conversation. But I owe it to George Floyd, to Philando Castile, I owe it to Breonna Taylor, to Trayvon Martin and Michael Brown. I owe it to Stephen Lawrence and Mark Duggan. I owe it to these people, plus many more, to keep having this conversation until it sinks into every pore possible.

Black people are NOT thugs. Black people are NOT ghetto. Black people are NOT uneducated. We are not poor, dirty, second class or anything else some people like to think we are. Our dark skin, beautiful and full of melanin is not a sign of disgrace, nor will it ever be. Our soft hair, coils towards the sun, charging us up with it’s energy. We are KINGS AND QUEENS!

Please let me remind you, my ancestors were minding their own business, living their peaceful lives before they were stolen and taken from the motherland. My ancestors are more than cotton picking slaves. My ancestors ruled!

The Black Lives Matter movement does NOT mean other lives do not matter. What we are saying is; Black lives matter because it is very clear to us that we don’t matter. There is a justice system that clearly wasn’t built to protect my people. It feels like not one, is willing to stand up for us when an injustice has been committed. We are branded DANGEROUS, A GANG MEMBER, AGGRESSIVE, A DRUG DEALER yet in reality, you couldn’t be further than the truth.

For centuries, people have stolen our land, raped us for our resources, stolen our music and sense of style and let us not forget our natural features. The list goes on…

We have had ENOUGH!

I speak as a woman of Jamaican and Pakistani heritage. To my Muslim brothers and sisters out there, who too get racially abused and attacked on a daily basis, this fight is for you too!!! This fight is for any person of colour because we deserve to have a carefree life. We shouldn’t have to worry about sending our children out incase the police stop and shoot them. We shouldn’t have to be anxious at the sight of a police car or being wrongfully labelled as aggressive so therefore peoples disgusting actions can be justified. I am going to have beautiful black children and I am scared to bring them up in such an ugly world. The human race needs to come together in solidarity. And if all lives mattered, why are people homeless? Why do you judge immigrants who come to seek a better life? Why is a person’s sexual preference judged? All lives do not matter. Enough is enough.

You cannot enjoy the rhythm and ignore the blues….

Stay Blessed xxx

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12.5.20 – The Fat Loss Struggle Is Real!

On By theempressdiariessIn exercise, keep pushing, not perfect, weight loss2 Comments

Dear diary,

Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is something that I have such a hard time sticking to over the years. A fitness trainer once told me “You want to lose weight? Stop eating shite! Simple as that!”. I mean, yeah Steve, we can say put down the doughnut or fried chicken but I am years deep into a bad habit 😒

I started going to the gym at the age of 16 and fell into a typical routine. Stopping and restarting. I must have joined up to 7 gyms and some of these multiple times over years. I have paid 3 people to become my personal trainer and attended around 15 classes. Just as I get in to my stride, I fall off. Whether it be a weekend away, a bad period, an injury, once I stop going I find it hard to get back into the rhythm.

Back end of 2019 to around end of Feb 2020, I was going to the gym 3 times a week. I would push myself to go after work, even when I was shattered and not in the mood whatsoever, id force myself into my gym leggings and get a sweat on.

I have mentioned in a previous post that I have been striving to get the abs I oh so desire, let me tell you, months down the line I have managed to acquire an extra chin and 2 rolls on my stomach. Even my ankles are cankles these days.

I looked in the mirror after getting out of the shower the other day and thought enough is enough now. I actually don’t mind if my stomach isn’t flat, but its a problem when my clothes don’t fit. I do not have the funds to buy a whole new wardrobe 😒😂 so, I got my stretch on and made up a 40 minute work out. I did some work with resistant bands and core work outs. I did the first exercise and couldn’t even get my legs up 😂. I felt so weak! I honestly made myself laugh because how am I 31 and not even able to lift one leg off the floor. Don’t get me started on the core exercises. I have zero core strength. Have you ever done a plank or a sit up and found yourself shaking uncontrollably like you’ve been left in sub zero temperatures? Well, that was me. I gave myself a target of sit ups and I couldn’t even do a quarter of that without stopping. Once the exercises were completed, I just rolled over on the floor. “OW, I CAN’T DO THIS, OOOW” is all the neighbours heard. Not that they knocked on to see if I was ok 👀.

I’ve woken up this morning feeling an ache in my lower back and my hips. Now, yesterdays workout session was by no means perfect, however, I am on (another) mission to keep this up and regain strength and hopefully drop at least 9 pounds. I am upping my water intake and trying to be more plant based with my diet. I won’t be completely vegan anytime soon but small, small steps. Not that we all have to be vegan to be strong and healthy, it’s a personal choice for myself.

I am super confident I can at least do the bare minimum everyday and hopefully by the time I need to put my jeans on again, I won’t cut off my blood circulation from the belly button down 😩😁.

Love and positive vibes to all x

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10.5.20 – Gratitude and Appreciation

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Dear diary,

During the last 6/7 weeks, I’m sure I am not the only one who has been up and down mentally. One minute I am loving my own company and not wanting the lockdown to end, the next, I am missing my loved ones and missing the old normal. Last week, whilst doing some reflecting, I decided to create a list of things I am grateful for. I think a lot of us take so much granted and I wanted to remind myself that if I look at the bigger picture, I am actually very blessed.

10 – My bed! Now for some of you, this might seem like a silly one. I work in a primary school and I help children from all walks of life. Unfortunately, some of the children I help have nothing in their house except the bare minimum. The bare minimum does not mean furniture! They have a cooker, fridge/freezer and a washing machine but no couch or bed. They sleep on duvets and blankets on the a cold floor. So you can understand why my bed is on my list.

9 – My garden! With the current lockdown, I have been blessed that I have a garden I can sit in whenever I feel suffocated. I sit listening to music or the birds chirping away. I allow my mind to clear and I become present and embrace the moment. I allow the sun to hit my skin and charge my soul to allow me vibrate higher. I never really sat in my back garden. As I have previously mentioned, I work 6 days a week so I was never really home to enjoy it. A lot of my friends and family live in flats and don’t have a garden, so I really feel for them on days when they want to sit and relax outside.

8 – My car! My anxiety has been sky high recently and I really don’t like going for walks. I was trying to encourage myself to go for early morning walks (which I did 3/4 times) but I just feel safer at home. To get myself out of the house more, I’ll jump in my car and take a small drive.It might only be to the supermarket or my Nans but it got me out of the house. If I didn’t have my car, I don’t think I would leave my house.

7 – A roof over my head! This one goes without saying. It is no secret that homelessness is an issue in the north-west and no doubt across the UK. I never really understand how in 2020, there are still people being left without a roof over their heads. If I had a genie with 3 wishes, getting everyone off the streets is definitely what I would wish for. We all deserve to be in a warm, safe space that we can call our own.

6 – Warmth! Linking with number 7, I think being warm is another thing that can be taken for granted. To be cosy and toasty should be a privilege for everyone! I can’t imagine people would choose to be cold, wet and freezing. However, I could be wrong. I personally love being warm. The heating is always on, I love beach holidays, I have 2 duvets on my bed; you get my point 😂

5 – Food and water! Again, linking to the last 2 reasons to be grateful, it seems like it should be a given but I don’t think most people give thanks before putting good food and clean water in their bellies.

4 – Technology! What would we have done during this time without technology? We are blessed to be in a time where we have smart phones to video call, laptops to keep us working and to have zoom calls! TV’s to help keep us entertained. Apps to help us track how fit and healthy we are, to help us bake the perfect banana bread as well as helping the children with their school work. Thank you technology!

3 – My jobs! During the pandemic, according to the news, 1 out of 20 people have lost their jobs. The most affected being accommodation and food services. I am blessed that I still have work.

2 – Good health! I can’t even imagine how many are feeling as Covid 19 sweeps over the world and causes damage to many people’s lives. Not only has this virus taken people far too soon, but there are still millions suffering with many other viruses and illnesses and can’t get the treatment or operations they need due to the coronavirus. I have always been grateful about being in good health before Covid 19 and I will always be grateful.

My top reason to be grateful – I woke up this morning! Waking up is one of the most underrated reasons to be grateful. So many people, didn’t wake up this morning. A lot will not tomorrow. As soon as my eyes open, I am so blessed that I get to enjoy another day of life. Sometimes, its not always happy times but I look back at my list and remember, although I may not be the richest when it comes to material things, I am rich in love, I am rich in blessings, I am rich in opportunities.

I hope everyone starts to make gratitude lists! Let us focus on the positive points in our life, not always the negative. A new normal is coming but that doesn’t mean that our lives are over.

Sending positive energy and vibes to all 😘