Dear diary,
MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
It’s been an up and down year for most of us so we can only hope that the end of the year – where coming together is the main part of the holiday – can be full of happy memories!
I hope you all have a lovely day filled with love, good food and a lot of laughs!
Lots of love
Xoxo
Dear diary,
After months and months of applying for new jobs…
After months and months of rejections and minimal interviews
I can finally say….I HAVE A NEW JOB!!!
You are now looking at a Content Writer!
I cannot believe it 😫
It’s been a hard slog, let me tell you!
I’ve been a Teaching Assistant for 8 years and it’s been the most amazing job!
The children I’ve taught over the years have such a special place in my heart but it’s time to move on and start a new career
2022 is gonna start off with a bang!
I’ll fill you all in once I start ☺️
Peace
Xoxo
Dear diary,
The topic of marriage pops up sometimes and it got me thinking…
Should he ask, I’m not sure if I want to take his surname 😬
My partner is adamant he wants me to take his surname. He spoke about us being a family and he doesn’t want our children having different surnames to their Mum. Plus, I’d be his wife. He wants to share his name with me.
I didn’t see what the big deal was.
I love my name! It’s mine! Not only am I the only child but I’m the only daughter – if I change my surname, it’ll be no more.
I’ve also heard men talk about marriage as of women are their possessions. If you look back on the history of marriage, women became mens property…..It’s a hell no from me!
But I know my partner wouldn’t see me like that. He doesn’t see me like that.
I took to social media to get other peoples views on it.
“It depends on what their name is. My last name is long so if their name was short I could double barrel. If their name is not popping im not taking that.” – Fair point!
“I won’t change mine. We will both have the same name” – That makes sense!
“I took his surname because it’s just culture. I thought about double barrel but thought that’s just long” – Culture popped up often!
“I would hypen it” – Hyphening names seems to be a popular option.
“….has said he’ll take mine 😂 my last name will die out as there’s 3 granddaughters so if we all got married it wouldn’t exist anymore… booo. Plus my name is my name I ain’t changing it lol” – Totally get this point!!
My favourite response was this…
“I think it shows your commitment to that person and a start of your family” 🥰
The responses were a mixed bag. Some for, some against, some wanting a compromise.
After being at a family wedding and feeling the love all around me, I had experienced something that was totally overwhelming. I never felt it before!
It was like a had an epiphany and I knew in that moment I wanted to take his surname!
Fast forward a few months and I’m back to wanting to keep my surname 🤣
I’ll keep you up to date with my name sitch 🥰
Peace
Xoxo
The Empress Diaries 